Stand up against bullying


I’ve spent years getting to grips with who I am.

It wasn’t until the last few years that I realized that it doesn’t matter what others think about you, it’s how you feel and what you think, 1186169_10151958567988594_1687366291_nthat counts.

When I was 18, I was 5″10, a size 14, curvy with 36EE breasts.  I felt I was fat but why?  Because people told me I was.  Years in senior school with girls telling me I was ugly, fat and even hideous.  So I hid from the real me, when I should have taken advantage of my body and how I looked.  I believed people when they put me down.

But I’m not the only person to feel this way.  Kids and teens are horrid creatures, when they lack confidence themselves.  Those bullies who pick on you are self-conscious of their looks and body.

Over the last few weeks, I have been volunteering with a local organization that was set up by locals  to help abolish bullying in the area.  It’s like a teen club, where kids and young adults can come and relax, in a hassle free environment.  I was approached by one of the founders and asked if I would volunteer time, as a counselor.  I didn’t realize how much I have in common with these teens.

Due to confidential reasons, I can’t embellish information but what I can say is that it isn’t these kids faults but those of those dishing out the vile words to them.  In my short time, 1 of my teens has found the confidence to stand up to her tormentor, she has changed the way she dresses and looks much more self confidence.  I attended tonight’s club, just to drop by for a cuppa and see how things were going.  Entering the building, I was greeted with chocolates and a big thank you card.  Made me feel humble but also felt like IO had accomplished something that I couldn’t do myself as a 16 year old.

Leaving that behind, I started thinking about me and how I have turned myself around from being hidden in a crowd to standing out.1001-group-portrait_li

I’m not your typical tall, slender and beautiful woman that people would assume I am but I am tall, curvy, make an effort and no longer hide.  I love my nails, every 2 weeks I am having my acrylics infilled, I also have different hair pieces to add onto up-do’s and make sure that I don’t wear dull clothing.  Wearing bright colours to match my mood, gaining a good shoe collection and wearing a smile, I am definitely a different woman to the one I was 3-4 years ago!

I love writing sex toy and adult product reviews, writing is my ‘get-away’ and my ‘go-to’ place, when I need some influential calmness and it really does work.

What is the point to my post?  I just want to say that no matter who you are, what you look like… are not hideous or a beast, you are a beautiful person, so stand tall!

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

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  1. I’m a size 14 and only 5ft 3in! I like to call myself compact! 😉 You are beautiful and I am glad you know that now! It’s nice thing to help others realize. Good for you!

  2. What a great post. This is just getting out of hand these days. I am always asking my teen son is there someone bothering him at school because I don’t want something to happen to him. I will be up in that school like a crazed mom. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Can’t stand bullying. I’d be the same if my kids were in being bullied 🙁

  4. thank you 🙂

  5. I’m happy that you’ve dealt with those painful memories, and even happier that you’re helping kids as they’re dealing with it. Youth and intolerance is a bad combination, and the cruelty you see in schools can rival a political campaign. I know I said some things in school that I shouldn’t have, and there were things said to me that still make me clench my fists.

  6. it is horrible when you hear about things that school kids do, makes me grrrrrrrrrrrr

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